Covering the Hair after Marriage

Posted By Devorah Channah on July 24, 2022
Covering the Hair After Marriage

The obligation of a woman to cover her hair takes effect only after the first night since it is from that point on that she has the status of one who has been intimate with her husband. She does not have to cover her hair immediately after chuppah and yichud since at that point she does not yet have the status of one who has been intimate with her husband. The reason is obvious, since as a matter of marriage law, there is no distinction between an arusah (betrothed) and a nesuah (fully married), rather the obligation to cover her hair is dependent on whether or not she has been intimate with her husband.

(Responsum from R. Moshe Feinstein, dated 15 Elul 5745, to R. Aharon Tendle).

 

Covering What is Precious

Posted By Devorah Channah on July 24, 2022
Covering What is Precious

When we own something very precious, we shouldn't flaunt it. The more we flaunt something, the less valuable it appears to us. When we own beautiful silver, jewelry, or rare paintings, we normally exhibit them only on special occasions. Were we to display and relate to them on a daily basis, they would cease being so special.

Just as familiarity can breed contempt, or at least dampen our excitement about material objects or events, the same thing can happen in religious domains...

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What is Tzniut [Modesty]?

Posted By Devorah Channah on July 24, 2022
What is Tzniut - Modesty

Tzniut (Modesty) is a state of mind. More than a matter of centimeters and inches, it is also a realization that each person is constantly in the presence of Hashem and must act accordingly.

Tzniut means moderation and modesty in every sphere of life including the following activities and behaviors:

 

  • ♦Appropriate language and tone of voice
  • ♦Courtesy for others
  • ♦Dress
  • ♦Honesty
  • ♦Moderation in material acquisitions
  • ♦Patience
  • ♦Proper decorum at simchas (celebrations like weddings)
  • ♦Respect and modesty between husband and wife.

 

Ultimately, through tzniut each Jew brings tremendous nachas ruach (spiritual pleasure) to Hashem and to others -- and peace, security and unity to Klal Yisrael.